The “esteemable acts” approach is a fresh new way to build self-esteem, one that suggests self-esteem comes from doing esteemable acts, those things that make you feel good about yourself. Based on the concepts that led to my recovery from drug addiction, alcoholism, low self-esteem, and a sordid lifestyle, esteemable acts are a courageous new path to freedom. It really works.
There are five basic principles of esteemable acts:
- Esteemable acts do not offer a quick fix. There is work to be done. You will get fifty-two weeks of work in fifty-two weeks. And you will get out of the experience what you are willing to put into it. Over time, you will see a change.
- Self-esteem is not the same as confidence. We mistakenly believe that if we are confident, are successful, and feel sure of ourselves, we will like who we are. This is a false assumption. While confi- dence may be an aspect of self-esteem, it is not the determining factor. Self-esteem comes from being in the game—making an effort—even if you feel unsure about your skills and abilities.
- Self-esteem is not the destination. It’s what happens to you along the way to living a courageous, purposeful, service-driven life. The destination is only a place; it’s the journey along the way that builds character. It’s what you make of your learning that defines how you feel about yourself.
- Self-esteem comes from doing esteemable acts. You can’t think your way into right living; you must act your way into right thinking. Self-esteem comes from behaving in a way that makes you feel good about yourself, which means being mindful of how you treat yourself and how you treat others.
- Walking through fear is the key. Each time you overcome a chal- lenge or complete a task you didn’t think you could complete, you feel better about yourself. When you get to the other side, some- thing magical takes place—a stronger, more empowered you is revealed.
If you want to dive in, I’ve written two books about Esteemable Acts. I’m just that passionate about it. Pick up a copy of Esteemable Acts or 52 Weeks of Esteemable Acts: A Guide to Right Living today!