Take Sides. Barrier. Destruction.
Recently I overheard someone who was sitting at the table next to mine talking on her cell phone.
“Who does she think she is?” the woman said. “Everyone at work knows she’s sleeping with the boss. That’s why she always gets special treatment.”
There was a pause, as if the person on the other end of the phone was responding. Then the woman at the next table, somewhat frustrated, said, “I’m not gossiping, I’m just sharing some information. It’s my opinion and I’m entitled to that.”
How many of you have ever made such a statement, or heard it from someone else? More than just about anything, gossip compels the participants to take sides, creating a line between them and us. It’s so destructive, yet we do it.
Gossip So Hurtful
If gossip is so hurtful and potentially harmful, why do we do it? First and foremost, we do it because we can! And secondly, because we often feel powerless over our lives, jobs, and relationships.
Regardless of the reason, gossip is the coward’s way of dealing with feelings. It never resolves the issue. Instead, it takes away your power, fuels the flame, and garners support for our fear, ultimately making us feel angrier.
So how do you break the pattern of gossip? Practice not uttering the first word of gossip. Once you start, it’s hard to stop. Instead, focus on living the life you want. If you’re happy doing what you love or are making an effort to create the life you want, you won’t have time to focus on the lives of others.
When we gossip, we feel powerful, but in reality we become powerless. What one action can you take today that moves you closer to taking back your power?
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